FollowShyness is rooted in fear — an irrational fear of speaking up and being humiliated or ignored. Everyone is insecure and afraid of embarrassment.
Say Hello
Introduce yourself. A big smile and “I’m _______, what’s yours” is all you need to open the door and begin a conversation.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Sometimes a person in a conversation, a person takes great strides to let you know how great they are. Have a great job, best pay, etc. When you are in a stressful situation the urge to prove you are socially worthy appears. Just relax, be yourself.
Ask About the Other Person
People love to talk about themselves. The best way to get someone to enjoy your company, ask questions about them. And listen, ask more questions. Don’t worry that you will not have anything to say, you will think of questions from what the person says.
Don’t Assume
Some very shy people appear stuck up and rude. They are quiet, not cold and don’t ignore the person who doesn’t respond as warmly as you want them to.
Compliment the Other Person
If you genuinely like something then go ahead and say something. Everyone likes a compliment, which starts a conversation and gives you and others confidence.
Think of Others
When you are in a social situation, don’t think about yourself. Let others join in the conversation; help them. The host will appreciate help serving or clearing away. Don’t concentrate on you, make sure others have a good time. That will help you be distracted from your nerves.
Another important step in overcoming shyness is realizing that other people are basically the same as you. Everyone is insecure and afraid of embarrassment. Other people usually aren’t as smart as you think. If you have a question, chances are someone else is wondering about the same thing.
When was the last time you were in a new, nervous situation?
